An understandable response to a totally lame situation…
But how does refusing to forgive make you feel?
What if I could show you a completely different way of viewing everything, like looking through a pair of magic, pink binoculars?
What if that new way of seeing things made you feel nice and fuzzy on the inside?
What if I stopped asking patronising questions?
Forgiving means letting go of anger or hatred directed at a person. It’s usually the last thing anyone feels like doing, even after their own death. But there is good news.
It is possible to forgive a complete A-hole.
That’s because forgiveness doesn’t excuse behaviour that was wrong or unfair. It doesn’t make it okay to commit murder, genocide or steal biscuits. It just gives you the distance, self-encouragement, presence and mojo not to mind it any more.
It can’t change the past but it can change your future. Similar to dieting.
Forgiveness is worth every penny I could be charging for this!
Learning how to forgive people has taken me on a journey to hell and back, even passing through South Croydon! This is a photo of me taken just a few years ago.
I wasn’t quite myself and if I’m honest it even had some effect on my physical appearance. But look at me now!
Still not 100% but doing so much better than ever before!
How to Forgive
People often say “Just forgive!” or “Just let it go!” as if that was the easiest thing in the world! Saying it is one thing but doing it is an entirely different kettle of piranhas.
But it becomes easier when you’re willing to learn how to do it, when you’re willing to enrol in the School of Cool.
Not everyone’s ready. And when they struggle with trapped or repressed feelings of anger, forgiveness can seem impossible.
So my advice is to forget about how to forgive for a moment! We’ll get there by following a clear and simple path that leads us there, step by step.
The steps involve making a habit of various new ways of thinking that give you a choice about how you feel and how you deal.
So get ready for an amazing journey through your lovely brain!
I have written a series of long, tedious articles that I believe will lead you to that place. Just click on links marked with “CONTINUE >>” or “NEXT ARTICLE >>” whenever you see it.
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