About the author

My name is John and I am interested in exploring the psychology of high sensitivity and complex trauma. My aim is to write a book that helps people to survive emotionally by addressing various general “how to” questions about life that I hope many will find useful.

Please note that I am not a qualified therapist or academic. The main benefits of my approach are personal experience, radical introspection and empathy but I also try to incorporate what other authors advise and to present it in a form that is clear, concise and useful. I decided to write a book when professional therapists and counsellors started writing to me and asking if they could use my material.

I am no guru but rather someone who understands what people’s personal struggles are about. I don’t have much more to say about myself but just for fun I thought I would share some of my favourite things on this page.

Some of my favourite music

I like a lot of indie and alternative artists. Click here for a YouTube playlist.

I also love funny songs performed by the likes of the Flight of the Conchords, Jon Lajoie and Tenacious D.  Some of these songs are very silly or offensive but hopefully they don’t need to be taken seriously. Then there are lots of movies I have enjoyed over the years…

Action and Sci Fi Movies (my top 33 in alphabetical order)

Comedy movies (my top 33 in alphabetical order)

Documentaries (my top 15 in alphabetical order – I haven’t seen many)

Drama and Historical Movies (my top 33 in alphabetical order)

Family and Children’s movies (my top 33 in alphabetical order)

Foreign language movies (my top 33 in alphabetical order)

Gangster and Thriller movies (my top 33 in alphabetical order)

Quirky or alternative movies  (my top 10 in alphabetical order)

TV Series  (my top 33 in alphabetical order)

Tasty leftovers (in alphabetical order)


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4 thoughts on “About the author

  1. Hi John,

    I am a 39-year-old father of a 5-year-old girl, married for 7 years, working in a high-stress environment. For most part, I raise my daughter on my own while my wife is emotionally and physically absent for most of the day, as a mother and a wife.

    I think I may be going through depression but never had it checked for the fear of getting positively as I do not want to use it like a crutch for everything going wrong in my life.

    In searching for answers to why I behaved in a certain way, I came across your website. It cleared up a lot of questions I had for myself. I have gone through all three articles on your site and I found all of them to be very elegant and enlightening. Of course, your writing had something to do with it – you write in a simple yet elegant manner.

    I want to thank you for changing my life. I now feel better equipped to face the world and deal with the daily battles. Please keep writing for the sake of people like myself.

  2. Very nice list of movies and music. You have included my favorites except for Requiem of a Dream, Cries and Whispers and Pee Wee’s Big adventures.
    Your article helped me a lot.

  3. Some real gems there! The untouchables and before sunrise – crikey, I’ve yet to meetc someone who has heard of them. The lives of others is great. Try Deutschland 83. You can catch it for free on 4od. It’s entertaining more than it is deep, but nonetheless worth a watch and the 80s soundtrack is just amazing. The Wedding Plan – an Israeli comedy is cute and funny at the same time. It’s something different.

  4. Hi, John:

    Thank you for your post on How to Accept Things. Like your other readers, it has been extremely valuable and I’ve reread it several times already. You say you’re not a therapist, but you should be!

    You mention above that you enjoy funny songs. Do you know the work of Tom Lehrer? It’s really old now, from the Cold War early ’60s. But in a weird way, you know, everything old is new again.


    Blessings for you and yours at this holy time of the year!

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